Afraid of women, help me guys and girls

[Wight Zombi]

I don't get why confidence is so overrated. I mean a confident person is more likely a person who will be able to manipulate another person. (male or female)

I mean yes that's may be attractive but sometimes it is not real, or just a play.

I don't mean that everyone is bad, or good neither but I don't get it. I mean if someone would do some effort to go see an unconfident person and help him/her throught well perhaps...

 

In fact that's probably what I wish. Even if I'm more confident than the fast years thanks to few persons ( girls in fact...).

Anyway not judging the book by his cover again.

People at times seem to forget that there's a fine line between confidence and bravado.  And often, that's where the manipulation comes into play.

 

I'm sure people can find that just as annoying as well, at the very least.  Especially when someone's evil intentions are revealed.  The truth can really hurt, in more ways than one.

[Inte]

So confidence huh?

Can one of you, describe what confidence actually means to you? The only thing I can think of when it comes to confidence is douchebaggery, and that I dislike... enormously, but that might be just my submissive personality.

Can a submissive be confident?

Hmm... according to some dictionary definition confidence is “self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one's abilities.” IDK

[shirow]

So confidence huh?

Can one of you, describe what confidence actually means to you? The only thing I can think of when it comes to confidence is douchebaggery, and that I dislike... enormously, but that might be just my submissive personality.

Can a submissive be confident?

Hmm... according to some dictionary definition confidence is “self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one's abilities.” IDK

 Now  I'm asking myself if I can be confident .

But the only thing I know is that  I can grow a pair of balls sometimes if people piss me off too much.

[Queen Bee]

Can a submissive be confident?

 

Oh, yes they can. A sub isn't always submissive 24/7, and very often uses the role as an out from stress from their daily lives. Subs can be anyone, even high power businesspeople, doctors, lawyers, politicians...there's no set type, just like how there's no set type to be a Dom/me.

 

The problem is most people tend to think of subs as weaklings or cowards, and that couldn't be further from the truth. First time Dom/mes often make the mistake of assuming a sub will do whatever they say, only to find out it simply doesn't work like that. A sub can be strong and confident yet bow to the greater authority of their Dom/mes, like how an army soldier can be strong and confident but still say "yes, sir/ma'am" to a superior officer. It depends on the person, of course, but for the most part subs are confident and strong willed. It's why it takes a special person, a Dom/me, to make us submit.

 

 

 

 Now  I'm asking myself if I can be confident .

But the only thing I know is that  I can grow a pair of balls sometimes if people piss me off too much.

 

 

I'm tempted to go off on a diatribe about how stupid it is to say "grow a pair", as if the lack of testicles denotes automatic weakness, but I'll save you the wall of text. Instead, I'll leave you with one of my favorite quotes, incorrectly attributed to Betty White.

 

"Why do people say "grow some balls"? Balls are soft and weak. If you want to grow something, grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding." -Sheng Wang

[fizzybutt]

 

 

 

"Why do people say "grow some balls"? Balls are soft and weak. If you want to grow something, grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding." -Sheng Wang

 

 

Sheng Wang may have said it first but it's quite a bit funnier when Betty White says it.

[Queen Bee]

 

 

 

 

"Why do people say "grow some balls"? Balls are soft and weak. If you want to grow something, grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding." -Sheng Wang

 

 

Sheng Wang may have said it first but it's quite a bit funnier when Betty White says it.

 

 

It would make for a pretty sweet Betty White quote, but according to some people, she went on record as never having said it. Apparently this joke "goes just a bit beyond where (she) would step professionally". Oh well.

[fizzybutt]

 

 

 

 

 

"Why do people say "grow some balls"? Balls are soft and weak. If you want to grow something, grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding." -Sheng Wang

 

 

Sheng Wang may have said it first but it's quite a bit funnier when Betty White says it.

 

 

It would make for a pretty sweet Betty White quote, but according to some people, she went on record as never having said it. Apparently this joke "goes just a bit beyond where (she) would step professionally". Oh well.

 

 

I could have sworn I remembered her actually saying that somewhere. But I can't find it. I thought she had said it on Off Their Rockers a couple years back. I've been watching her my whole even though I'm only old enough to remember Golden Girls. She's a frickin' hilarious old woman. Her innuendos get pretty dirty and she's made Ferguson blush.

[LordJerle]

I occasionally sit down too hard and land on one of my balls.  Not a wonderful feeling at all.

[Loveryus]

I have kind of the same situation as the guy who started this thread. First I used to fall in love with girls. They never loved me back. The first time that happened, I was heartbroken for about a year and couldn't even really get my job done. The next girl helped me lose my virginity, which was cool, but no, she didn't love me. Afterwards I got to know a really hot girl (a nymphomaniac) and we had a lot of hot sex, kissed and liked each other. She was disgusted by dicks though, so she grabbed mine with two fingers to put it back in while we had sex. So the pleasuring was a little bit one-sided. She had a boyfriend who was okay with us by the way. Later she started treating me like shit, cause I had a dizzy phase where I wasn't talking smart stuff all the time. That was about the time when I stopped keeping contact, cause I realised that I was in the situation my parents were in before my mum threw him out... I found out that loveless sex wasn't what I'm really looking for, cause I need harmony in my life. Than I started enjoy being single and kind of gave up on hoping to get a girlfriend, cause of the pain of rejection and bad treatment. A few unlucky tries to make a girl like me happened now. Nothing big, cause I kind of expected it to fail.

 

I got to thai massage's once every month after a while. This is where it started to get really fucked up. I was raised with a lot of morals and stuff and one day the cute asian woman massaged me and I had a big boner and she offered me to help me with it for free, cause she liked me. I grabbed her breasts and it turned out to be a very loveless situation. She mechanically masturbated and I was thinking, that I could do that better on my own. After I came I was shaking as if it was really cold. I could barely speak cause me teeth were chattering. I don't really know why... Maybe, cause I kind of paid for sex and killed one of my self-inflicted rules?

 

Whenever I get close with a girl now (that I like and haven't friendzoned) this annoying chattering and shaking starts, which is quite disturbing for both the girl and me.

 

I don't even know if a psychatrist could help with that... I wonder if porn consume has something to do with my mental mess. Maybe I have to read self esteem books again.

Any ideas or advices about this?

[Molevalence]

As stereotypical and generic as this sounds, all you need is confidence and to be yourself. If you have both of those communication with women is simple. Most women like confidence and when you are being your true self and not pretending to be someone you're not you are up front and once again expressing confidence in yourself. Also falsifying about yourself will come back to bite you in the ass later on.